Today, I am honored to share with you a treasured friend with a great big heart. She loves well and authentically. And her wisdom … wow! Her name is Deb Wolf and she is the Blessing Counter. She blogs over at Counting My Blessings and ministers not only to my heart, but to the hearts of many. She understands grief because she has lived it. But with Christ as her cornerstone, she walked through it and didn’t let it keep her stuck. Today, as part of The Something Better Series, she shares how, with grace and patience, we can get unstuck.
It was a long hard few years.
It seemed like one family crisis piled up on another. Our friends and family started calling us The High Maintenance Prayer People.
Month after month – loss, illness, death, and a micro-preemie grandchild . . . and those are just the big things.
We were exhausted but so very thankful. God had walked us through day after day with faith and peace…
With the exception of one thing.
One thing I just couldn’t give up. One thing hurt too bad. One thing was hard to accept. One thing made it hard to move forward.
I was stuck in grief over what was supposed to be, how I’d pictured that time in my life.
Maybe you can relate.
A divorce you didn’t want.
A rebellious child that broke your heart.
A parent who walked away.
A sudden death that rocked your sense of security.
And you’re stuck in that place where you’re broken heart wakes you up in the morning and wrestles you to sleep at night.
Life is hard.
I want to give you two words to help.
Grace & Patience
Grace because your broken heart is not a surprise to God. He knows. He is with you. He’s walked the path you’re on.
Rejection – But first the Son of Man must suffer terribly and be rejected by this generation. Luke 17:25
Rebellion – All day long I opened my arms to a rebellious people. But they follow their own evil paths and their own crooked schemes. Isaiah 65:2
Death – Then Jesus wept. The people who were standing nearby said, “See how much he loved him!” John 11:36
Give you broken heart to Jesus. Trust Him.
The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, and He saves those whose spirits have been crushed. Psalm 34:18
Live one moment at a time.
You will not become unstuck overnight. I would love to say I prayed and everything was fine . . . that I felt better and went on with my life. But you wouldn’t believe me anyway.
Healing takes time.
I have a scar on my hand. Three years ago, when our Cavapoo, Sadie, was a puppy she caught me with one of her sharp little fangs in a ferocious game of keep away. It was a deeper puncture wound, so it didn’t heal fast. The top would heal over, but it needed to heal from the inside . . . so it seemed like weeks or longer before it settled into a scar.
There is something unique about this particular scar though . . . occasionally it becomes a bump and it annoys me. I’ll pick at it or catch on something while I’m working and open it right up again.
You’d think that would stop after three years wouldn’t you?
Truthfully, it’s a good reminder for me.
Because grief and pain are like that. After a while, the overwhelming intense pain heals over and becomes a scar. But deep wounds can’t heal from the outside in. They have to heal from the inside and that takes time.
And even then . . . once in a while, the scar will become a bump and that old wound may open up a little and hurt again.
The Lord loves you.
He says, “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy-laden and overburdened, and I will cause you to rest. [I will ease and relieve and refresh your souls.]” Matthew 11:28 (AMPC)
Run back to grace for the salve you need as often as necessary. You will not be judged. You will never be turned away.
You are loved.
No matter how you feel. No matter how much it hurts. No matter where you are stuck.
Run back to grace.
It will get better. I promise. You will heal. Sure you’ll have a scar, but that’s okay . . . it will be a reminder of God’s amazing grace and just how far He’s brought you.
Deb Wolf is a CLASS trained speaker and writer who writes about the important connection between faith and life at Counting My Blessings. She loves babies, coffee, and chocolate in that order. And believes every day should be celebrated as a gift and filled with lots of laughter. (Join her on Pinterest, Facebook and Twitter.)
The Something Better Series
The Something Better Series is the exploring of stepping up and stepping out toward our something better in life. Come back next week as Terri Fullerton shares her story. She is an amazing woman who grew up in the shadows of domestic abuse, but with Christ, stepped up and out toward her something better. Because of this, her story gives hope, inspires, and reminds us that with Christ reaching for us, we are never stuck.
In case you missed the first week of this series, you can catch up here!
Week 1 – What Is Your Something Better?
Week 3 – Leaving the Lies of Shame Behind
Friends, if you are stuck but desire freedom, it’s possible. With Christ, victory is always within our reach. But we have to take those steps. We have to step away from hurt. From dysfunction. From shame and from fear. If you are ready to take that first step, I’ve created the 5-Day Hope Toolkit: Claiming the Victory of a Hope-Filled Life. It, along with all the other resources I have stored in the Library of Hope, is yours for free when you sign up below.
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