How do I reconcile my hope with my acceptance?
My hope says that healing is coming…or at least that things will get better.
My acceptance says that things are as they are…now and maybe forever.
I know it’s possible. I believe there is a place of balance between the two. I believe God has a resting place right there in the middle that allows families to find peace. To thrive.
But, I’ll be real. I am struggling to find that place. There are moments I think I have it. Even days. But in complete honesty, more often than not I do not have that reconciliation. My hope and my acceptance are butting heads and peace is not resting in my heart.
I guess it is because the black and white portion of my personality views acceptance as giving up. If I stop teaching, correcting, and monitoring all the things that I see as obstacles in my daughter’s ability to have independence and success in her life, it feels as if I have, in a sense, given up.
And what happens in the future? Do I look back in regret and wonder if I had pushed through and persisted in yet another obstacle, would it have helped? Did I accept too soon? Which obstacles do I deem important and which are those to let go?
But our family is at a point of mental and emotional burnout. Something must give for our family to thrive. And I believe it lies in acceptance.Reconciling hope is not an acceptance that says “I give up”, but an acceptance that keeps hope alive. A hope that is rooted in the Lord because His hope is eternal. It is a promise. His hope is the only hope that is authentic and unwavering.
And so, Lord, where do I put my hope?
My only hope is in you.
I know that so many amazing families have already walked this unknown road. I know that you have gone through these emotional phases of adjustment. You have ached and then found peace. You have cried and then found joy. Would you please share with me in the comment section below your stories of reconciling hope and acceptance? Real stories from real people have such an incredible impact on others in the trenches. Your stories are a conduit of that hope the Lord has for us. And I thank you for being that conduit…