In what do you place your worth? Have you subconsciously allowed someone or something to become an idol? Is your identity rooted in what you do or how you do it? This week I am excited to share with you my friend, Alisa Nicaud of Flourishing Today, for another #ChosenandWorthy story. Alisa’s story, faith, and passion are evident in her every word. She is beautiful from the inside out and I know what she shares here today will help you recognize and repair a broken identity.
Know who you are in Christ.
The words constantly rang in my mind.
I heard them from friends and in sermons.
Although I didn’t necessarily know what they meant, I knew the weightiness they held.
My whole life my identity had been wrapped up in accomplishments.
My worth was determined by successes.
But those things can only bring you so far before they come crashing down around you.
And you’re left with a broken identity.
“It’s time for you to stop homeschooling.”
The words came as a shock. I couldn’t believe my husband was asking me to give this up. Just 5 years before, God had given me the task to educate our children.
Everything was going great! I had started several Classical Conversation homeschool campuses and had even applied to be a regional director.
I was succeeding. This was not the time to give up!
As I pondered his words, I saw everything I had worked for suddenly vanishing.
Letting this go was not going to be easy.
I was the homeschool mom.
I fought and bargained. But eventually God reiterated the same words….let it go.
I questioned God.
I wondered why He would let me become so vested in something that He would eventually call me away from. What would people think about me putting my kids back in school after I pushed so hard for them to be homeschooled?
I love that I can talk frankly with God.
He’s not surprised by my feelings, my frustrations or the questions I have for Him. As I began speaking to Him about this situation, He revealed my broken identity.
My worth and value had become wrapped up in homeschooling. Not only was it my identity, but my idol.
I had placed it above Him. I let it define me.
Therefore if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17 NIV
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I want to be controlled by the Spirit and not the flesh. I want God’s best for my life.
As I processed through this with God my motives were exposed.
The reason I didn’t want to let go of homeschooling was not because I would miss it. The real reason was because I knew I’d feel lost without it. My fulfillment was found there.
Healing a Broken Identity
The next year would prove to be a very difficult year for me.
I felt purposeless. My days felt empty and alone.
But rather than give in, I pressed in.
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Intimately Know Jesus
This may sound like a strange point, since we already know Christ. But hang with me for a moment.
We can know about someone without really knowing them personally.
In fact, this was the kind of relationship I had with Jesus for years.
I went to church, read the stories of Jesus and even prayed in His name. But I didn’t really know Him intimately.
There wasn’t a personal connection.
It was more about religion than relationship for me.
As I studied the Word, spent time in prayer and visited with Jesus, I began to trust Him and rely on Him. The more I knew about Him, the more I began to know who He had created me to be. When we spend time talking with Him, He reveals things to our hearts.
After I gave up homeschooling, He began to speak to me about writing. Out of my difficult time, a dream was born!
Meditate on God’s Word
The Bible is full of scriptures that speak of our identity in Christ. As we meditate on them, they become embedded in our hearts and minds, helping us to have a firm foundation in Him.
Here are a few scriptures to get you started:
But to all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God. –John 1:12 NLT
We know that our old sinful selves were crucified with Christ so that sin might lose its power in our lives. We are no longer slaves to sin. –Romans 6:6 NLT
So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. –Genesis 1:27 NLT
But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light. –1 Peter 2:9 NLT
Claim His Promises
This step is so important for knowing who we are in Christ. The more we claim His promises, the more confidence we have not just in who we are, but who He is! Here are a few of my favorite promises to claim:
I am safe in Christ and the evil one cannot come near me. (from 1 John 5:18)
I am established in righteousness. Oppression is far from me and fear does not come near me. (from Isaiah 54:14)
I have been given the mind of Christ. (from 1 Corinthians 2:16)
Greater is He is who is in me than he who is in the world. (from 1 John 4:4)
Are you suffering from a broken identity? Is your worth wrapped up in your successes or failures? Friend, God sent His Son to die for us so that we could be complete in Him. Knowing who we are in Christ simply means knowing what He died to give us. His promises to us are “yes” and “amen”. His inheritance to us is freedom and an abundant life. It’s ours for the taking.
About the author:
Alisa Nicaud currently lives just north of New Orleans, LA with her husband Philip Nicaud, their five children and their dog, Roux. She owns a boutique coaching practice and is the founder of the blog, Flourishing Today. Through her own tragedies, Alisa is intimately familiar with the struggles of anxiety, fear, insecurity and depression. Alisa’s willingness to be transparent gives her a unique advantage in relating to women from all walks of life and leadership. She freely shares helpful hints and practical encouragement rooted in Biblical truth in her posts and resources. Her passion is to help women grow in faith and walk in purpose. You can learn more by visiting her blog at www.flourishingtoday.com
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