The other week I wrote a post titled “When Betrayal Threatens to Shatter Your Confidence” (find it here). The response I received was big and it told me we all share this pain. No one is exempt. Because I believe betrayal erodes the very essence of our belief that life is good, I felt compelled to dig deeper.
Betrayal divides, dismantles, and destroys
Betrayal is based on lies and the enemy is the author of those lies. How we respond has lasting effect. It can cause hurt to ourselves as well as to those around us. And it often leaves its mark on the next generations. With the events happening in our world on a daily basis, it’s time we expose, deal with, and confront betrayal. We need to do something to stop its ugly domino effect of hurt in our world.
I am going to take the next several weeks and explore the truths surrounding betrayal. These truths contain some of the armor, strength, and strategies we need to have on active duty when facing the betrayal that will inevitably interrupt our lives.Betrayal divides,dismantles,and destroys.How we respond is important #truth #betrayal #hope… Click To Tweet
I’ve come up with 7 truths we must know about betrayal (I’m sure there are more and I’d LOVE for you to share them with me!). Each week’s post will focus specifically on one of these so that we can dig deeper and bring more light to this topic. Today, however, I just wanted to share with you a brief summary of the 7 truths to which I am referring.
7 Truths to Remember About Betrayal
- Betrayal and Guilt. The betrayal is in the hands of the betrayer. It is not ours to own and it does not place guilt on our shoulders. The enemy wants us to believe it must be our fault and that we deserved the betrayal, but this is the enemy’s favorite way to use his masterful lies.
… He was a murderer from the beginning. He has always hated the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, it is consistent with his character; for he is a liar and the father of lies. John 8:44 (NLT)
- Betrayal and Identity. The betrayal is not our identity. When we are betrayed we can find ourselves harboring feelings of unworthiness. We hear the enemy whisper things like, “You are not worth being respected” and “You were a fool.” People, however, do not betray based upon the worth or level of awareness of those they betray. They choose to betray because of a brokenness deep inside themselves. An unredeemed sin in their hearts is acting out the betrayal.
Jesus answered, “It is the one to whom I will give this piece of bread when I have dipped it in the dish.” Then, dipping the piece of bread, he gave it to Judas, the son of Simon Iscariot. As soon as Judas took the bread, Satan entered into him. John 13:26-27
- Betrayal and Unconditional Acceptance. We must unconditionally accept the fact that life is not fair and injustice happens. We cannot avoid it nor is it in our power to stop betrayal. It is only in our power to trust that God will walk us through betrayal.
When Adam sinned, sin entered the world. Adam’s sin brought death, so death spread to everyone, for everyone sinned. Romans 5:12
- Betrayal and Revenge. Revenge will not make betrayal better. It will only make our own brokenness greater. We may never be personally witness any type of justice, but our faith assures us that the Lord will take care of the matter.
Do not say, “I will repay evil”; Wait [expectantly] for the Lord, and He will rescue and save you. Proverbs 20:22 (AMP)
- Betrayal and Lessons Learned. Betrayal stinks, but it will also allow us the opportunity to grow. Simply being able to look betrayal in the eye and say, “I will grow from this”, is defeating the intent of the betrayer. But even more so, is recognizing that on the other side of this betrayal lies a healed heart and new-found joy beyond what we can imagine.
“When a woman gives birth, she has a hard time, there’s no getting around it. But when the baby is born, there is joy in the birth. This new life in the world wipes out memory of the pain. The sadness you have right now is similar to that pain, but the coming joy is also similar. When I see you again, you’ll be full of joy, and it will be a joy no one can rob from you. You’ll no longer be so full of questions. John 16:21-23 The Message
I’m not saying that I have this all together, that I have it made. But I am well on my way, reaching out for Christ, who has so wondrously reached out for me. Friends, don’t get me wrong: By no means do I count myself an expert in all of this, but I’ve got my eye on the goal, where God is beckoning us onward—to Jesus. I’m off and running, and I’m not turning back. Philippians 3:12-14 The Message
- Betrayal and the Church. Betrayal represents people as a whole. All people both in and out of the Church. Most definitely there is and will be betrayal in the church, but that does not mean betrayal is the church.
Then Judas Iscariot, one of the twelve disciples, went to the leading priests and asked, “How much will you pay me to betray Jesus to you?” And they gave him thirty pieces of silver. From that time on, Judas began looking for an opportunity to betray Jesus. Matthew 26: 14-16 NLT
My hope is that this series will open our hearts to the brokenness and bitterness betrayal has carried into our lives. With open hearts, we can recognize the effects it has on our lives and be willing to bravely tackle that which is left eating at our souls. Then we can stop betrayal from seeping into the lives of our children and families. I pray you will feel hope in the face of the betrayal that has already befallen you or the betrayal that still may come.Join us! 7 truths to tackling our response to betrayal #series #truth #armor #strength #strategy Click To Tweet
Lord, thank You for Your wisdom. You knew the broken hearts we would suffer from the fallout of sin and you lovingly gave us the tools and truths in Your Word as a guide with which to face betrayal. I come before you on behalf of every sweet brother or sister effected by betrayal. I ask you to heal our hearts and set us free from any captivity. Set us free from the lies we believe and the bitterness that has planted itself in our hearts.
Lord, the enemy came to destroy us, but You have come and set us free so that we may have a rich and satisfying life (John 10:10). May each of us turn to You as our strength as we look betrayal in the eyes and defeat it and all the effects left in its wake. And Lord, would You please envelope each reader today in your love and assurance of their worth? Remind them that they are made in Your image and that there is nothing more beautiful than that! In the Name above all names I pray … the name of Jesus. Amen.
Friends, thank you so much for joining me each week! I am honored with your presence and pray always that you feel the warmth and love of not only me, but more importantly, of Christ, during your time here.
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